I’ve mentioned before that sometimes when I can’t sleep, (particularly when my mind is racing) I’ll play a little game with myself.  It’s an attempt to focus my thoughts on God and thank Him for who He is.  At the same time, it slows my brain down or breaks a cycle of obsessive thinking.  The game (which my mom taught me years ago) is simple: I pray my way through the alphabet.  With each letter I pick either a name or an attribute of God and then thank Him for it.  Sometimes I will spend as much time as I can on each letter, thinkingRead More →

At the moment, my story is full of hope.  My love is seeking and following God and the Holy Spirit is doing a mighty work and making him new.  Our faithful God is healing me, He is healing our children, and He is restoring our unity.  I praise Him for all of this! But at the time that I first started this blog, that was not my story.  Our situation was as broken as it had ever been and I felt total hopelessness for our marriage, and frankly for my future.  I don’t ever want to forget how that felt because as God is bringingRead More →

We have so much to celebrate in our home this Easter season!  Sure, the past few years have been difficult.  There has been a lot of pain and a lot of sadness.  Hearts have been broken.  Trust has been lost.  But when we reflect on the redemptive work that God has done in our family these past three months, how can we do anything but rejoice?  He has breathed new life into places long dead.  We are believing Him to continue that work and see it through to the day when He returns and completes what He has started in us. This Holy Week hasRead More →

I have been sharing with you recently about the Anxiety and Depression that both my love and I have been dealing with.  You can read more about that here, here, and here.  I must admit, I have been skeptical in the past when I would hear people talking about either of those issues.  They have become such buzz words.  Over-used, over-diagnosed, and over-medicated.  At  least, that’s what I thought.  It just so happens that my best friend suffers greatly with a real-deal anxiety disorder and after walking through that with her, and seeing her several times in the throws of severe panic attacks, I justRead More →

An Update to Our Story from the Past 45 Days “Afterward the disciples asked Jesus privately, ‘Why couldn’t we cast out that demon?‘ ‘You don’t have enough faith,’ Jesus told them. ‘I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move.  Nothing would be impossible.‘” – Matthew 17:19-21  Hopefully yesterday you read Part One of this story.  If not, you might want to take the time to stop and do that now.  Yesterday I told you what our plan has looked like for theRead More →

An Update to Our Story from the Past 45 Days “So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you must endure many trials for a little while.  These trials will show that your faith is genuine.  It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold – though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. ” – 1 Peter 1:6-7 Well, we’re halfway through the 90 day therapeutic separation I talked about here.  I thought it would be a good idea to give a little update because God has been doing some big stuff!  We ended up changing a fewRead More →

Today, His Dearly Loved Daughter launched a new feature here on the site and I am so excited to tell you a little about it.  It has been a real joy for me to write this blog over the past few months.  It has helped me more than words can express to process my own journey toward healing and to share it with others, all the while seeking to glorify God and to be an encouragement to those who read it.  I will, of course, continue to do that in my weekly full length posts, just as I have been doing so far.  I discoveredRead More →

I have just read, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal, by Barbara Steffens, PhD, LPCC, and Marsha Means, MA.  I have to say, I’ve read a lot of helpful books in the last few years, but this one is by far the best one yet!  I really cannot recommend it more highly.  In fact,  I recommend this book not only to the spouses of sex/porn addicts, but also to anyone who is trying to understand or help those partners.  This book will offer so much insight into the trauma that the betrayed spouses deal with everyday.  Both my love and IRead More →

Sometimes life gets foggy.  For one reason or another stress piles up and it can become difficult to navigate or even find the path forward.  When that stress is a result of deep betrayal, especially when it has been repeated again and again, the fog is likely to gather all around our perceptions of ourselves.  Insecurity is almost inevitable.  It can become so very difficult to find truth when our thoughts are clouded by questions like: Who am I? Do I matter to anyone? What’s wrong with me? Am I worthless? Is there anything about me that’s likable? Am I ugly? Is there any purposeRead More →